Your first Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting is usually much less intimidating than many people expect. There’s no test, no registration, no fees, no requirement to speak, and no obligation to come back.

Here’s what you can typically expect:

1. You’ll be welcomed. Many meetings have someone greet newcomers at the door. If you mention it’s your first meeting, people are often happy to answer questions before or after.
2. The meeting begins. Someone usually opens with a brief reading about AA’s purpose, the Twelve Steps, or other AA literature.
3. Introductions. Depending on the meeting, people may introduce themselves by saying something like, “Hi, I’m Sarah, and I’m an alcoholic.” As a newcomer, you’re not required to introduce yourself or identify as an alcoholic if you’re not comfortable.
4. Sharing. Members take turns talking about their experiences with alcohol and recovery. Some meetings read from literature and then share, have a main speaker share the experience before and after Alcoholics Anonymous, other meetings focus on a specific topic for group discussions. You do NOT have to share if you don’t feel comfortable.
5. You can simply listen. It’s perfectly acceptable to say, “I’m just here to listen,” or to pass if you’re invited to speak. Many people spend their first few meetings doing exactly that.
6. Closing. The meeting usually ends with announcements, information about future meetings, and sometimes a closing reading or group prayer, depending on the group’s format. Participation in prayers or other traditions is 100% voluntary.
7. After the meeting. Many members stay to chat. Some may offer you phone numbers, suggest other meetings, invite you out for a chat over coffee or answer questions. There’s no pressure to accept.

Things to know

• It’s free. There are no dues or fees. A basket may be passed for voluntary contributions from members, but newcomers are not expected to contribute.
• Anonymity is important. Members are expected to respect each other’s privacy. People won’t say they saw you there and expect the same privacy in return. Yes, even if they know you!
• Meetings vary. Every AA group has its own atmosphere. If one meeting doesn’t feel like a good fit, it’s common to try a few different ones before deciding.

If you’re unsure whether AA is for you

You don’t have to be certain you have an alcohol problem to attend many meetings. Some meetings are “open,” meaning anyone interested can attend. Others are “closed,” meaning they’re intended for people who have a desire to stop drinking.

If you’re thinking about going because you’re worried about your drinking, attending a meeting can be a low-pressure way to hear from people with similar experiences. You don’t have to make any commitments just by showing up.